A while back I made this list. Since then, being a pragmatist, I've decided that I should offer the Reader's Digest Condensed version. For your perusal, whittled down from twenty-two points of interest to seven, be impressed with my revised and succinct list.
1. Talk to me. Not just to fill the quiet, but to share what's going on in your head. No one is a mind reader, and no one should be expected to be. Share with me your deepest and darkest places and trust that I will not judge you.
2. Accept me. For the ever passionate, deeply flawed, relentlessly optimistic, work-in-progress human that I am.
3. Never hold back. I can take it! I am resilient and strong. I am capable of growth and accommodation. Do your best to be kind where this is concerned.
4. Fuck my brains out. Regularly.
5. Miss me when we're apart. Be with me in the moment when we're together.
6. Appreciate me. Bring me a flower once in a while. Cook a meal. Tell me I'm pretty. Kiss me often. Hold my hand. Be generous.
7. Love me, love me, love me. And trust that as you do these things for me, I will do them for you in return.
that's the sweetest list! I think you should publish it. Others who do not have your way with words could use it as a guide for their love interest!
ReplyDeleteWhen I get around to writing that book on relationships, this will most definitely be included. And thank you! For me it hits on everything that is important, everything else is workable if these things are in place.
ReplyDeleteI realized years after creating the first list of 22 points that I had figured out what was truly important to me in a relationship with a man and some editing was necessary.
In the nearly four years in between writing the lists I felt like I had matured a great deal and wanted that to be reflected. With the first much longer list I was reeling in the aftermath of my divorce so the items on it were, in essence, things I wanted to change from my twenty year marriage. The short list just tells it like it is!