1. Stated my respect for her right to engage in a relationship with whom she chooses, free from my judgement.
2. Expressed a level of my discomfort with her SO for the sole reason of explaining why I would decline an invitation to stay with her.
3. Gave an example of her awareness of his behavior so I don't sound like a crazy woman.
4. Based on information that she had shared with me, asked her to confirm or disavow my conclusion.
5. Expressed my love and concern for her, that I miss her very much, that I would always be here for her, and my sadness over a lack of communication the last two years.